“your Trauma Doesn’t Define You” No Actually It Does. It Dictates Every Aspect Of My Shitty Life.

Hello! Over time I’ve learned what radqueer means, but what exactly does radinclus mean? I used to think they were the same thing but that doesn’t seem to be the case so I want to know the definitions and how they differ ^^ /nm /nf

Radinclus is about supporting all lgbtq+/mogai identities that are harmless and in good-faith (like xenogenders, neopronouns, mspec lesbians/gays, etc). Radqueers have tried to steal the definition and apply it to things that are very harmful/not good faith (like transracial, transautistic, transnazi, etc), where the logic of "accept all good-faith identities" doesn't work because the identities have been proven to be harmful and most aren't good-faith.

Radinclus is about harmless lgbtq+ identities, while radqueer is about harmful non-lgbtq+ identities (most of which originated on 4chan or from other troll/bad faith uses), if that makes sense

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I kinda wanna hear your thoughts on the extreme overlabeling of the RQ community

(Prefacing this by clarifying that by over-labeling I don’t mean having a lot of labels, i mean having a label for every single little thing)

Just gonna put it bluntly: it’s not healthy. Wanting, for example, blue eyes or to be an electrician is a normal thing. It’s normal for people to want things. You aren’t “transeyecolor” or “transjob”, you’re just a person who wants that thing. A child wanting a toy from a store isn’t “transitem”, they’re a child who wants a toy.

Labeling every single thing you do with a flag and considering it “radqueer” is just not healthy. I get it, most people that do this are kids, and kids are still finding their identity and who they are as a person. But trust me, putting a flag to everything you do and everything you want is not a good thing! Making yourself think that everything you do and want and think is a product of being “radqueer” will only fuck with your brain and severely fuck up your worldview.

Want is what drives us as people. People have wanted things since the beginning of time. When someone is sick, they want to get better. They don’t need a flag for “transitioning to get better”. You don’t need fancy flags and symbols for everything you want or feel, you just need to be you.

"Anti" is actually an acronym that stands for "awesome, neat, terrific, and interesting" btw. Because that's what all anti-radqueers are :3

I hate radqueers as much as the next guy but telling anyone to kms is disgusting

taking a step back and having some more research about this, yes it was wrong of me some of those people might’ve been minors groomed into this, (feel free to fully dm me if u want help want to get better im here and ive been groomed like that before lovely’s) but for the adults that are grooming those minors. yeah go kys my stand points

the hell is transbpd and cisbpd why are we separating a mental illness by GENDER

Reminders to transBPD folk from cisBPD:

It's okay to feel ashamed sometimes

Your identity may feel lonely and "wrong", but it doesn't mean it's invalid

You are BPD, trans or not

You are not a joke

You may or may not transition. It doesn't affect your validity.

You are safe and loved.

You are cool as hell! I want to hang out with you!

/gen /srs

hi. i don't expect you to understand or change your perspective, but i just wanna give you an understanding of my trans/trisbpd label.

i DO have it. i developed it later in life from trauma. this would make me "cisbpd" if we're being technical about it, but calling it "transbpd" feels like i can take the power back from my trauma!

maybe some transids ARE invalid. not that it will stop them from existing. if someone is willing to "fake disorders" with the transabled label; there's probably something mentally going on to make them do that. bpd has made me commit attention seeking behaviours too!

there's also a thing called body integrity identity disorder (bid/biid) which is when people feel they're supposed to be disabled, and dysphoric in the fact they aren't. is this okay? fuck no. i hope these people can recover. but not giving them space, consideration, and surgery could be way more harmful than professionally amputating them.

because they WILL and HAVE gone to unprofessionally do these things. it's unfortunate, but it is harm reduction.

i understand how the transbpd label can help u feel like ur able to take that trauma back and ik how much it fucking sucks to have bpd, but as ive seen the transbpd label has been used for people that WANT to have bpd without the trauma and glorify the bad behaviours that come with it, ive seen a post where someone was telling transbpd people how to fake having a fp and putting stigmatised abusive behaviours for how to act. and thats flatout not okay at all thats my problem with the transid label, i feel it makes an absolutely mockery of trans people and people actually with disorders ans disabilitys as this label gets used it can actually harm people that are “cisid” from getting proper help as mental health professionals might not take them as seriously and obviously having more of the public internet stigmatise and say people actually suffering are faking and attention seekers.

cisid and transid isnt vaild, cisgender is idenifying with the sex you are assigned at birth, you can’t be born with a mental illness its from trauma so that cant make sense at all. transgender is not identifying with the sex you were assigned at birth. again you can’t identify with a mental illnesses if you don’t actually have it or have the trauma that goes with it. the people that fake it cause harm to us great great harm.

i agree people whi fake disabilities need help, actual help for their mental health, ive had a family member with münchhausen and münchhausens by proxy, she was my grandmother, she convinced my mother she was sick everyday of her life to get pity and forced my mum to undergo unnecessary surgery that has impacted my mother for the rest of her life, from that trauma i was rarely taken to the doctors and ive only been to the hospital once and that was after i left my mother, im only finding out now that i have horrible hip problems as i was never checked for hip displacement at birth and now it might be to late for me and now it’s impacting my everyday life i couldn’t continue work from the pain of just being on my feet and im still fighting to get doctors to see im in pain. i only found out from my adoptive mother (shes a nursery) that i have extremely low blood pressure that causes me to almost faint every time i stand. theres been so many problems i only found out now at 16 that would’ve been fixed if they were checked when i was a baby. this is why those people are harmful, münchhausens is such a harmful disorder and people that want to be sick can cause serious truama to others.

the biggest problems i have with radqueers is the support of pedos, zoos and necros its straight up disgusting and shouldn’t be supported at all. i hope u understand this rant of my personal reasons of not supporting these labels and i hope i can actually change your mind on it :)

"Anti-radqueers are the real cult" is very similar to "antifa are the real fascists". Anti-radqueers are not an organized group, it's just an opinion, like anti-racist or anti-ableist. Sure, there is an "anti-radqueer community" on Tumblr, but we aren't as organized or strict as the radqueer community is (hence why a lot of us have completely different discourse opinions outside of being anti-radqueer, meanwhile most radqueers have the exact same discourse opinions with only a few tiny differences).

Anti-radqueers are not a cult. Don't let radqueers steal yet another term to co-opt and shift the meaning of, especially when it's been proven time and time again that radqueers are in fact an extremely traumatizing cult. Calling anti-radqueers a cult is a badly done attempt to escape blame and consequences, and is directly copying off of and appropriating former radqueer's trauma.

Radqueers are a cult, not anti-radqueers. If you are a former radqueer, your trauma is real and is not because of "a few bad people". You deserve support, recovery, and healing. You are allowed to feel angry, upset, depressed, anxious, or traumatized after what you went through. Radqueers can deny that it happened, but can never take away the truth that it did.

jesus fucking christ, i have bpd too and i can not imagine that people WANT this disorder, i wish u well with therapy i am too getting help and ik how hard and hellish it is to live with this

Reminders to transBPD folk from cisBPD:

It's okay to feel ashamed sometimes

Your identity may feel lonely and "wrong", but it doesn't mean it's invalid

You are BPD, trans or not

You are not a joke

You may or may not transition. It doesn't affect your validity.

You are safe and loved.

You are cool as hell! I want to hang out with you!

/gen /srs