Idek1man - IdkMan

giggly cuddling that turns into play fighting that turns into you pinning me down and saying “try it. try to get away.” that turns into me struggling and cursing at you while you push inside me

HOW TO SUCK DICK

If you simply wanted to get a guy off as quickly as possible, all you need to do is lock your lips at the base of his cock and suction them up and down the bottom ¾ of his shaft at a quick, steady pace while pressing your flattened tongue against the underside of his dick. Make sure you are applying pressure with both your lips AND tongue. Keeping your tongue engaged at all times is key. I try to keep mine moving at all times. This is how you get 90% of guys off. It helps me keep from gagging to hold his cock steady at the base and bring my lips down to meet my fingers. You can do this very slowly for a more intense feeling, but make sure you move at a steady rhythm. Some guys like it faster or slower; you may have to ask, or more likely, he’ll tell you. This is your power move, the one that is actually going to bring him to orgasm. A true hooker blowjob needs only this one move; if scientists were to create a blowjob machine, this is what it would do. The other moves I’m going to teach you are artistic flourishes; you use them to add flair and style to your blowjob or to slow down the action a little. SALIVA Don’t be afraid to just slobber all over his love muscle. It should be as wet and sloppy as possible, especially during your power move. A good blowjob makes loud, gross suction-y noises. When I’m done, I’m usually covered in my own drool and leave a wet spot on the bed. USING YOUR HANDS If his dick is too big for you to take the whole thing in your mouth, you’ll need to use your hand too. Slobber all over his cock for awhile first so your hand will slide easily up and down instead of just catching on his dry skin. The most important hand move is the twister. When you slide your hand up his shaft, twist your wrist. A twisting motion gets you into a smoother rhythm than the straight up and down. Slide your hand up and down on the base of his cock in conjunction with your mouth moving up and down on the rest of it. The hard part is finding the correct grip: again you may want his guidance. Another good trick is to wrap your hand around the top of his cock and put your mouth over your hand. Then slide your hand down the shaft and your mouth down on top of it in a fluid motion until your hand meets the base of his cock. It will feel like you’re sliding your mouth all the way down him even if you can’t. It’s times like these I wish I could draw; I’d make little diagrams. THE BALLS I usually start out by paying some attention to the balls. There are three basic ball moves: you can put them in your mouth and suck them (LIGHTLY), lick them with a flattened cow tongue, or tense your tongue into a point and run the tip of your tongue all over them. I alternate between all three. Sometimes I lift them up and lick underneath his balls. Also, if you cup them while you are entering the home stretch, you’ll be able to tell he’s about to cum as they get higher and tighter. THE HEAD My next move is usually to give his shaft several long licks from base to tip. This is the ice cream cone move; it looks sexy, it’s a nice touch, but it’s not going to make anybody cum. While conducting the power move, I come up from time to time to give the head a little attention: sucking on it, moving my tongue in a circle around it, and flicking my tongue over that spot on the underside that all the sex websites tell you is el sensitivo. In my experience, guys don’t really go that wild over attention to that spot, but these are just flourishes anyway. I tend to get a bit wrapped up in my work that I forget to make eye contact, so head action is a great time to look up at him with puppy dog eyes and his cock in your mouth. FACE SLAPPING I mentioned this in my tips to get him to cum faster, but at least once during the beej, I usually pop his dick out of my mouth and slap it against my tongue or face, then look at him while I rub his cock against my cheeks and lips. Guys are visual, this is just a little something dirty for him to look at. DEEP THROAT I can’t really teach you how to deep throat, that’s between you and your gag reflex. The important thing, I think, is to make an effort to take him in as deep as you can, even if it’s only for a few seconds. It’s hard to explain exactly how I do this: try concentrating on relaxing your throat and jaw. As I mentioned before, it helps me to steady his cock with my hand when I go deep, and breathing in instead of just holding your breath also helps abate that “gonna puke” feeling. THE BIG FINALE When you’re ready to finish him off, go into the power move and don’t vary your pace for anything. If you’re cupping his balls, you’ll often be able to tell when he’s about to cum as they tighten up. I speed up a little bit at the end, and when I feel him start to come I push my head down as deep as it will go and suck slowly and intensely at the base, letting his cum just shoot down my throat.

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⚠️ Warning Signs of Dangerous and Unethical BDSM Practices

Entering the world of BDSM can be beautiful, empowering, and healing. But stepping into this world also means stepping into vulnerability. And where there is vulnerability, there will unfortunately always be those who seek to exploit it.

I write this not just as someone who knows the rules, but as someone who has seen the consequences when they are broken. I have witnessed red flags ignored, hearts broken, and gentle souls hurt by people who have no place in the BDSM community. I write this for every person I have seen wounded, and for every kind soul out there still searching for their place. I want to protect you by giving you the armor of seeing the warning signs, and the strength and support to walk away when something feels wrong.

Because it's important to know that not everyone who calls themselves a Dominant or Submissive has earned that title. There are those who will misuse these dynamics to excuse abuse, manipulation, and harm, by disguising cruelty as "kink."

If you are exploring, whether for the first time or after carrying the scars of past experiences, hear me now: You deserve to be safe. You deserve to be cherished. You deserve to be protected.

This guide was created not to frighten you, but to arm you, and to remind you: You are never wrong for protecting yourself. You are never wrong for walking away. Recognizing red flags does not make you cold, suspicious, or “too much.” It makes you wise.

So read this post not with fear, but with the strength of knowing you are worth more than those who would misuse your trust.

🚩 Red Flags in Dominants You Should Never Ignore

Refuses to discuss boundaries, safewords, or consent. A healthy Dominant welcomes clear communication about what you want, need, and do not consent to. If someone brushes it off, jokes about it, or tells you that "real" submission means you don't need a safeword, leave.

Removes aftercare or safewords as a form of punishment. A real, ethical Dominant will never take away your safeword or aftercare as punishment. Safewords are your lifeline, they protect your safety, sanity, and autonomy. Aftercare is vital for your emotional and physical well-being after intense scenes. These are non-negotiable rights, not rewards to be given or taken based on behavior. If anyone threatens to remove or deny your safeword or aftercare as a punishment: Walk away. You are not dealing with a Dominant. You are facing an abuser.

Pushes you into dynamics or activities you haven't agreed to. Consent must be enthusiastic and informed, not manipulated, guilted, or assumed.

Tells you that "good" submissives have no limits. You are not "bad" or "less" if you have limits. Limits are normal, healthy, and necessary.

Demands submission before trust is established. True submission is earned, not taken. A Dominant who pressures you to submit early on is not interested in your well-being, only in their control.

Dismisses aftercare as unnecessary. Aftercare is not a luxury; it's a vital part of ethical BDSM. Your emotional, mental, and physical care matters after a scene.

Demands titles (like "Mistress," "Mommy," etc.) immediately without your agreement. Titles should always be discussed, offered and accepted with consent. They are not automatic or owed.

Becomes angry or punishing when you express discomfort, ask questions, or say no. A safe Dominant will never punish you for advocating for yourself.

Is vague about their experience, references, or past partners. A Dominant with integrity will be transparent about their journey, including mistakes they've done and/or learned from.

Romanticizes or encourages unsafe practices like CNC (Consensual Non-Consent) without deep negotiation and a very strong trust foundation. CNC can be beautiful only when it is deeply negotiated and handled with extreme care. Anyone rushing into it or treating it casually is dangerous.

Plays while angry, drunk, or under the influence. Impaired judgment has no place in BDSM. Ever.

Disrespects your existing relationships, commitments, or mental health needs. A caring Dominant honors all parts of your life, not just the parts they want access to.

🚩 Red Flags in a Submissive

No Respect for Their Own Limits. A submissive who says "I have no limits" or refuses to talk about boundaries is unsafe, for themselves and for you. Everyone has limits. A refusal to acknowledge them shows inexperience, misunderstanding, or emotional instability.

Pushes for Instant Intensity. Asking for intense scenes, dangerous play (like CNC, breathplay, or heavy impact) immediately shows a lack of understanding of trust, safety, and connection. A good submissive respects the importance of pacing and building trust.

Disregards Negotiation. If they rush past important conversations about safewords, triggers, expectations, or needs, it’s a sign they may not be ready for BDSM in a healthy way.

No Safeword Agreement. A submissive refusing to use a safeword because they "want to be broken" or "don't want to stop" ignores that BDSM should be mutually safe and consensual.

Manipulation for Attention. Using guilt, self-harm threats, or emotional blackmail to get more dominance, control, or attention is abusive behavior, not submission.

Treats Submission Like a Transaction. "If I do this, you owe me that" thinking is incompatible with healthy dynamics. Submission is a gift, not a bargain for affection or attention.

Disrespecting Your Boundaries as a Dominant. A submissive who begs for things you have clearly said you are not comfortable with (pushing your own limits) is not respecting you. Dominants have limits too, and they matter just as much.

Fetishizing or Dehumanizing Dominants. Seeing Dominants only as fantasy objects ("you're just a tool for my needs") instead of real people with feelings and needs can lead to harmful, one-sided dynamics.

Poor Communication After Scenes. Refusing to give feedback, withdrawing emotionally without warning, or refusing aftercare conversations can damage trust and connection.

🚩 Dangerous Practices

Ignoring safe calls/check-ins: Especially for early meetings, safe calls (someone checking on you) are crucial.

Edgeplay with no prior experience or safety measures: Breathplay, knife play, or psychological edgeplay should only be explored with extensive education, experience, and deep trust.

Isolation tactics: If someone tries to cut you off from friends, family, or community, they are not protecting you, they are trapping you.

Public play without your clear consent: No one has the right to involve you in kink scenes or exposure without your enthusiastic yes.

No aftercare planning: Emotional and physical care after a scene is part of ethical BDSM. Its absence can leave lasting harm.

No emergency knowledge or tools. Lack of basics like safety shears during bondage scenes, or not knowing how to respond to medical emergencies (like fainting, nerve compression, panic attacks) shows dangerous irresponsibility.

Consent to One Thing, Doing Another. If someone agrees to one act but then escalates to something riskier or unrelated without asking, that is violating consent and sexual assault.

What a Healthy, Ethical Dominant Looks Like

Consistently respects your autonomy, boundaries, and voice.

Communicates openly, patiently, and invites your questions.

Treats your consent as sacred, not optional.

Prioritizes your safety, emotional health, and aftercare needs.

Understands that dominance is service, responsibility, and care, not power for power’s sake.

Grows with you. Listens, adapts, and values your humanity first.

What a Healthy, Ethical Submissive Looks Like

Honors their own limits and communicates them regularly.

Engages in thoughtful negotiation instead of rushing into intense scenes without discussion.

Uses safewords and communication tools responsibly.

Respects the Dominant’s boundaries and humanity.

Owns their emotional well-being.

Approaches submission as a gift of trust and growth.

Values ongoing consent and connection.

True BDSM is based on

Informed and respected consent

Trust and mutual care

Respect for limits

Constant communication

Ongoing negotiation

There is no kink so “hardcore” that it should ever ignore safety or consent. Ever.

A Gentle Reminder

You are not "too much" for having boundaries. You are not "too needy" for wanting aftercare. You are not "too difficult" for wanting to feel safe and respected. You are allowed and encouraged to walk away the moment something feels wrong. You deserve a dynamic that lifts you, protects you, and cherishes you.

And if you ever feel unsure or currently in an unsafe dynamic, reach out to trusted friends, help lines, or community spaces where ethical BDSM is practiced and discussed, for help. You are never alone.

Stay safe. Stay empowered. And above all, stay loved. 🤍

A Daydream in the Forest

*A collaboration*

It was a cool autumn evening, perfect for a stroll in the woods behind the house. I turn towards her and place my hand on the small of her back to pull her closer but she playfully pulls away. I turn to her and tell her to come to me, but she says no. I didn't like that, and I begin to walk towards her. As she retreats into the forest. "Oh, you can run little one, but I'll find you."

It's still light out but the sun is setting in a few minutes so she has to find the perfect spot to hide...

"I'm good at hiding." She says to herself, "I know that's going to drive him mad with desire for me. I'm doomed when finds me, and I'm getting so wet just thinking about it."

I'm a bit scattered as I pursue her, conflicted in thought and desire. On one hand I love the chase, the rush from anticipation, but on the other hand, I need her and I need her right now.

The quicker I can find her the better. I can smell a hint of her perfume, I'd recognize it anywhere. It smells like the night air under a full moon. I turn to follow that scent...

I can see him, but he can't see me yet. I notice him turning in my direction and my heart beat quickens. I can feel his eyes. I'm far enough away to where I can move a little bit farther the closer he get without him noticing. I can feel myself getting anxious. But not in a negative way. I can feel it puddling within me.

My heart is racing, I want to find her before the sun sets. I feel her eyes on me but I can't see her. I call out to her. "It's only a matter of time before I find you. Why not come out now and we can deal with your little indiscretion little one?" I hear a little giggle, and I pick up the pace to try and reach her.

I feel I've found the perfect hiding spot, behind a large tree trunk. Silly of me, naive even, to think that would be enough. I can hear your pace quicken, and I'm frozen. "Either he finds me or he doesn't" I press myself against the tree as hard as I can, my legs starting to shake from the adrenaline.

As I'm running, something catches my eyes... I've spotted her... Her hair flowing gently in the wind. I slowly approach, being careful to not alert her.

I'm so nervous. I can't hear him anymore but I can feel him near. The hot pit in my stomach gets deeper and I close my eyes. I can't see him, but can he see me?

I can hear her breathing intensifying as I get closer. Her legs shaking with anticipation. I quicky get in front of her, and grab her by the throat, my knee placed firmly between her legs.

I force her to look at me, and I grin.

"Finally found you."

I screech as I see him within the seconds he has me pinned. My eyes rolling as I feel his knee and smile from the pressure on my throat.

I grab handfuls on each side of his shirt, making sure he can feel my nails in him, trying to pull him a little closer... Or push him away, I haven't decided yet.

Her nails dig into my sides and I wince from the pain, but it turns me on more and fuels me. I squeeze her throat a little tighter, partly because I know she likes it, but also to show her who's in charge. I begin to pull her closer to me.

Whimpers escape me with his grip is tightening. Pressing myself on his knee a little.. just for a tiny bit of pressure. My hands lose on his sides now as he pull me in.

I press my lips into hers and allow my passion to take over me. I lay her down on the ground holding her wrists down. The sun sets as we kiss, and I've finally had enough of the waiting. She can feel my throbbing cock on her leg, and she knows it's only a matter of time.

I kiss him back with just as much passion. Soft moans leaving my lips as I feel him on my leg. I can feel just how excited I am, I'm soaked already. I give a little fight for the control of my wrists. Wanting to touch him... desperately.

I release one of her wrists and sit up while still holding her down and letting her rub her legs together. I can't risk her getting away again, so I need to be creative. I pull out my knife and begin to slice her clothes down the middle for easier access.

My loose hand reaches for his chest to give some tiny stings from my scratches. Grinding into nothing as my legs rub together. I freeze as I see the knife. My breath quickens as I look at him in the face while my clothes start to shred off me. Exposing all of me.

I see her. All of her beneath me. Vulnerable, exposed, and writhing with anticipation. "Fuck.." it escapes my lips as I am utterly transfixed by her beauty. I release her other wrist as I grab her hips and pull her closer, careful to not damage her perfectly soft skin on the ground. I pick her up and have her straddle me as my hands are placed on the small of her back. "You're mine" I whisper, as I slide my fingers into her and feel just how wet she is, just for me.

My arms wrap around his neck as I tighten around his fingers. More soft moans come from my mouth as I watch his face. I enjoy seeing him enjoy me. "I'm yours".

I feel her cum all over my fingers, and she bites my shoulder as she does. My eyes roll back from the ecstasy of the moment. I am throbbing to the point of dripping by this point and I don't think I can wait another moment. "Are you ready for me, my love?" As I stare into her beautiful brown eyes, I am undone.

I grind in his lap feeling him throb. I nod my head at him and say, "I've been ready."

"That's my good girl" as I lay her back down. "You're already so wet for me." It takes no effort at all to slide into her. It's gentle and passionate at first, but we both knew it was only a matter of time before our primal passions came out.

We thrust and grind deeper and harder into each other. Her nails claw at my back as my hand is wrapped around her throat. It's messy, it's carnal, it's passion. We both are lost in time at that moment.

My moans continue to get louder, not realizing or necessarily caring it's dark or that perhaps someone can hear me. I'm engulfed by him, in pure ecstacy. He's about to make me cum again.

She can feel me growing inside of her, her moans cause me to become even more aroused. Her pleasure turns me on and I go harder and deeper. I want to fill all of her. I turn her over on your belly, and I grab her hips make her arch her back as I enter her again. I feel like I'm going to cum soon, and I'm going to make the rest count as I thrust deep into her.

I grab at the soft dirt beneath me, feeling him enter me again. "You feel so fucking good." One arm reaches back to grab your hand on my hip.

Pushing myself onto him, harder with his thrusting rhythm.

Her moans, her grip around me, the way she feels dripping down my cock. I can barely take it. The intensity and passion, the sweat and dirt, the moonlit sky, the threat of being caught, all culminates to this moment. With one final thrust, we both cum. "Fuck.." as I drip out of her, she melts into my arms and we both stare into each other under the moonlit sky.