Close Up Shot Of Somebody's Lover

Anyone else filled with such visceral hatred towards the cold? Like I’ll step outside and it’ll be like 30 some degrees and almost instantaneously I want to hurl myself into oblivion

Rafayel is for the people that grew up fast.

Rafayel is for the people that couldn’t fully enjoy being a child.

Rafayel is for the people that needed to see a loved one leave and got attachment issues ever since.

Rafayel is for the people who couldn’t express their emotions as a child since this was dismissed as “overreacting and now be quiet!”.

Rafayel is for the people that wanted to start a new hobby but no one believed that they would stick to it.

Rafayel is for the people who got called lazy all their lives.

Rafayel is for the people that got a late adhd diagnosis.

Rafayel is for the people that cry alone in their room.

Rafayel is for the people that despite their hardships in life, they still think the world is beautiful🩷

AJR is a punching bag for many of the online music critics. Mainly because AJR make very earnest music. They write about struggles: mental health, trying to balance having a life with friends while gaining popularity, and just the struggles of being in your 20s and early 30s.

But they always end their albums and many of their songs on an optimistic, earnest note. (One song is literally called Touchy Feely Fool!)

Their newest album The Maybe Man is tied together from beginning to end. Starting with someone struggling to find out who they are to realizing that who they are at the moment is important.

And if their music/lyrics aren't your thing, no worries. But the amount of hate for people writing sincere songs really is pervasive with just the culture of making fun of people who are earnest and unapologetically themselves.

Their songs also hit my ADHD just right. There's always something there to latch onto and hold my attention.

Anyway. Be you! Have fun! Don't others stop you or make you feel ashamed of something you love.

(Also, I highly suggest going to see them in concert: they put on a show, including wirework, puppets, lots of using multimedia that makes it more Broadway, trap doors, and flailing dancing.

Lyrics of the last song 2085 on their last album. It balances the "more stupid" parts of their songs with the over-the-top sentimental.

Skincare tips: Retinol

If unsure, start with the most gentle sort of retinol (retinol esther, or the 2nd most gentle, pure retinol - read how it works here).

Consistency over intensity. It's better to use a gentle product consistently over weeks, months, years, than it is to use an aggressive/strong product over a brief period.

Less is more.

You can use retinol regardless of your skin color, just start slow and on the low, gentle end of retinols.

What it does: thickens the skin, encourages cell turnover / skin regeneration. Smooths wrinkles and fine lines over long-term consistent use.

How much to apply: a pea-size amount is sufficient for the entire face.

When to apply: in the evening, after doing your skincare routine, on a clean & dry face. Avoid applying in the morning, as retinol makes your skin sensitive to sun damage, and retinol itself also breaks down under the sun, making it less efficient in the mornings.

How often: 2-3 times a week (ie. Monday - Wednesday - Saturday). Keep up this routine to see if your skin tolerates it well, if it does (and this may take even a year to adjust) you can increase the frequency to every night.

What season to use: you can use retinol all-year round, just make sure you are protecting your skin with sunscreen, as it makes your skin photo sensitive.

When using retinol, be careful with these areas (as in the skin there is more sensitive, so apply less product + more gentle retinol): around the mouth, neck, chest.

The only time you need to use retinols specially made for the eye area, is if you have very sensitive skin and standard retinols irritate the delicate skin around your eyes.

Be careful with using any acids* in your routine. Do not use them at the same time (ie. same evening). Alternate the days for each: if you apply retinol one evening, use acids the next evening only.

If you have underlying skin conditions (eczema, rosacea, etc), check with your dermatologist first before testing out retinol.

Retinol is not recommended to be used during pregnancy.

Don't exfoliate on the same nights you use retinol (ie. salicylic acid or other acids*), as it's too aggressive on the skin.

For most retinol products, it is best to apply moisturizer before, to use as a buffer, and then apply the retinol. This includes the chest & neck areas.

(Source: dermatologist S. Idriss)

I'm glad they're on the same page

INFP culture is having a breakdown and giving yourself a peace sign in the mirror afterwards

ADHD Ask!

1.When were you diagnosed?

2.What type do you have? (Hyperactive, Inattentive, Combination)

3.Do you stim?

4.What is your favorite stim toy?

5.Looking back what behaviors did you do that you now realize are ADHD related that no one noticed?

6.Did you ever receive special education services because of your ADHD?

7.What are the positive qualities you have associated with ADHD?

8.What techniques help you cope with your ADHD?

9.Do you have any comorbid diagnoses?

10.What sensory things do you love?

11.What sensory things do you hate?

12.What is your experience with RSD (Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria)?

13.What part of ADHD do you struggle with most?

14.What part of ADHD have you learned to love?

My take on the MBTI from the perspective of an ENTJ

1. ENTP: Smart, fun people; easy to get along with.

2. INTP: I want a piece of your mind.

3. INTJ: Cool and mysterious, but the males are annoying

4. ENTJ: Hyperfocused on success to the point that it's unhealthy

5. ENFJ: The chronic need to be the center of attention is excusable because y'all have a good heart

6. ENFP: Y'all put too much effort into acting like you don't care if you're liked by everyone for being "quirky", but you do.

7. INFP: Pathetic; really need to stop letting people walk all over themselves

8. INFJ: Sage wisdom, kind heart

9. ISFJ: Lowkey boring ngl

10. ISFP: You make sure to stand out in your own ways

11. ESFP: Annoying, self-indulgent, the lack of awareness is ghastly. Often wonder what it is like to be in your head because you seem to have no self-critique whatsoever.

12. ESFJ: Kind-hearted, too kind in fact, because nobody thinks of you when the day ends.

13. ESTJ: Y'all are just annoying

14. ESTP: Charming, very, very charming.

15. ISTP: Coolest people I know

16. ISTJ: Boring; more like tiring