Trans Tips #11!

this is also prolly a good time to mention...I have absolutely no clue how to operate a picrew thingy whatever it is

i dont even know if I have access to it 😭

and also my Tumblr acc doesn't let me DM so I'm here 😭

And I didn't even see this ask! I'm so sorry it took so long for me to reply!

You click on this! It's the big, bold, underlined caption that says "The Picrew" under the first image

Apparently, it's an embedded link that opens the pic crew icon designer website, so if you just click on those words it should let you make yours!

Once you finish, hold down on the picture and it'll let you download it or copy to your clipboard

Then you can reblog with yours!

I'm excited to see what you'll make, lol!

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Transgender people

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Autosexual people

Demisexual people

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Straight people

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ANYONE

(through gritted teeth) sometimes what's good for your mental health isn't another do nothing day or a little treat sometimes what's good for you is putting in some of the work. Not all of it at once but sometimes you have to finish that essay or at least take the next step or you have to clean your room or at least dust the shelves or you gotta do the laundry or at least put it all in the hamper and it's not fun and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks and it sucks but you have to because i read a post on the internet that told me that's what being nice to yourself is sometimes

i never see enough tips for trans women/transfem people so. here’s a video that came up about tucking :] (don’t worry she doesn’t use tape at all despite the thumbnail)

I recently started taping instead if binding and it's unbelievably gender affirming like what the fuck it's amazing.

I don't even really mean the flattening affect because of course that's gender affirming if I want a flat chest (which I do) I mean just like. How it looks. I love my trans identity, I love my queer identity. And this just makes me REALLY feel trans. It makes me feel completely and truly connected with my community and the people before me. I don't know. I love it.

Because also I've never really hated my overall body shape, I quite like it. I often feel more affirmed looking at my naked torso than with a binder or bra because I genuinely like my shape and it's gender affirming for me, it's just that my chest looks a teeny bit off. It just looks like it shouldn't be there, while a bra or binder feels even more off putting to me because wearing something to cover it feels weird, it feels like it should just be bare.

And taping feels that way. Yes technically it's covering a part of my chest but it's also out and open. I feel like I can have my shirt off and be comfortable and I WANT to look at myself. I feel sexy and I feel desirable.

God I love tape this feels wonderful.

I come from a culture that has no nudity taboo - nudity is not considered inherently sexual, or somehow traumatising to witness. What that means in practice is that there is a clearly drawn line between sexual and non-sexual nudity. There is nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a sexual context, and nothing wrong or inappropriate about nudity in a non-sexual context. However, it is 100% inappropriate to be nude in a situation where it is not obvious from context whether this is sexual or not.

I've seen random kids who briefly escaped from their parents bolt across a public park buck-ass naked after they were playing in the water fountain and their parents were in the middle of changing their kid from wet clothes to dry clothes when the small nudist escaped. Changing your small kid's clothes right there in public is ok because there is obviously nothing sexual about a child whose clothes got wet. But although people will have baby pictures of their kids in the bath or just running around the house like that because sometimes little apes hate clothes for some reason, it's considered common sense to not share those pictures on facebook mom groups and such, because you have no way of knowing who's seeing them, and that blurs the line of context.

It all boils down to the clearly defined context. Bathing nude in the same sauna with five of your co-workers at the office christmas party? Clearly nonsexual, therefore completely fine. Your friend-with-benefits inviting you to come over and opening the door in nothing but a doggy collar and the most porn-scented perfume? Clearly sexual, therefore completely fine. A woman checking her breasts for lumps in the gym lockers just before or after a shower? Clearly non-sexual, therefore completely fine.

But if you went to the bank today and there's some guy who walks in and immediately strips naked, doing his banking business wearing nothing but a deep smile and being clearly very content with this situation, you have no way of telling whether he's getting kicks out of this or not. There is no contextual reason for him to be nude. Therefore, that is inappropriate.

Then you go home and post on tumblr - as one does - going like "there was some dude completely fucking buck-ass naked in the bank today. That was fucking weird and I wish he had not done that." And someone immediately swoops into inform you that actually nudity is not inherently sexual or inappropriate, and there are cultures out there that have no nudity taboo. It's not fair to call somebody a freak for something like that, maybe that guy was just finnish.

The amount of "men DNI" "I hate men bc theyre inherently violent/evil/manipulative/etc" "why would you ever want to me a man lol" "men suck" "I could NEVER be friends with a man" "imagine dating a dude. ew" "testosterone is basically poison" and other related anti-masculinity rhetoric I see in "leftist" spaces, especially queer spaces, is genuinely disturbing.

I think a lot of it follows the mindset of "women aren't worth less than men, its actually the other way around" like. yall are just reinventing gender essentialism in a more "progressive" way and its doing a lot of fucking harm to trans communities especially. Respect for one gender doesn't mean disrespect for another. It isn't a fucking pie.

and these same people are always the same ones with "transandrophobia truthers dni, it doesnt exist" in their bios

whoa i feel like i can actually look at myself when i do more masculine makeup. like i don’t just feel immediately depressed and dissociate/experience my vision going blurry and can’t look myself in the eye. also boxers are so comfy and i love love love my new short red/burgundy hair. and my new ear piercings. like i’m just taking so many steps to feel more affirmed in my gender experience and comfortable in my own skin on my own terms, and it’s so so nice. now that i’ve started, i don’t want to stop.

not sure if i’m trans masc or a trans man or non-binary, or if i’m genderfluid like i initially thought, but man i feel so much more calm and at ease and like gently alive. like such a chill vibe and so grounded i love it so much omg

i think i might change my blog yet again lol.

genuinely have had numerous people tell me that as a trans man i'm "a men's rights activist invading trans spaces".

so many people legitimately do not see trans men as trans.

i need people to understand that so many people for some reason have the idea that trans = feminine or woman. it's a real issue.

how are trans men invading trans spaces? this is where we live. and of course we're gonna advocate for our own rights. why wouldn't we? we don't exist to self flagellate because the idea of transsexual and transgender manhood and masculinity frightens you. i'm a trans man. i'm trans. i'm not invading my own community.